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Broken families.  They are everywhere.  What is it about people, some people, that they play push-me-pull-you with the children and use them for leverage?  Can they not look past their own pride or agendas and see the selfishness?  Do they think the children are oblivious to these things?  Such fools.  It makes me so angry.

Gadget’s not taking the kids next weekend, since he supposedly has work commitments.  I tend to think he’s intentionally trying to put a wrench in any plans that Skills and I might have.  I don’t know this, so maybe it’s not a fair assumption.  Considering the source, along with previous behaviors, though, it’s not an invalid assumption.

Skills’ ex (ex-wife, and mother of his daughter, as opposed to scorned STD-drama ex-girlfriend), has asked that he take his daughter next weekend, because she had such a good time last weekend, and it would be great for her to spend more time with her dad.  That’s great!  Really, it IS.  He’s a bit put off by the timing, because he wanted to do something special for me.  Birthday weekend and all.  You know, a holy day.  [His words, and I think it’s sweet.]

I say we make the most of it, and do something fun with all of our children.  It will be sweet.  It will be great.  (Just let me have some cake, okay?)

A birthday spent with people I love.  What could be better than that?

The travail comes from not knowing if the ex has got something up her sleeve, not knowing if she’s going to yank the rug out from under his feet and not let him see his girl for who knows how long.  She’s done it before, so he’s concerned she’ll do it again.  It puts him in a difficult place. Because it’s manipulation.  Just like Gadget.   They’re both trying to manipulate us in their own respective ways.

I say, make the most of it.  We don’t know what the others will do, what agendas they may have, what tricks they might pull.  We should just maximize the time that we do have, make the most of it, throw our arms about our kids, squeeze them tight, say I love you, and have some fun.  Live fully the moments that we have.

Besides that, when these people see that their games and manipulations don’t affect us, that we go on living joyfully and embracing whatever comes our way, they are the ones confounded in the end.

Take that.

(And God bless the children and help us, who are trying to be good parents, have the wisdom, patience, and presence of mind to give them all that they need, and to shield them from the conflict.)